2024 1028 陸陸:欣喜者 Rejoicer
題外話先說一下,最近很高頻率抽到這張塔羅牌,但請宇宙給予祝福的是不同的個案。
想來,一直很深奧、神秘、朦朧的宇宙,最近忍不住想對大家說,不要想這麼多,許多時候真的是,我們庸人自擾呀。
人生,就是感受,享受驚喜的旅途。
今天請宇宙送給陸陸三個月寶寶的祝福塔羅牌:【欣喜者 Rejoicer】。
陸陸說,她的寶寶作息有點混亂,搞得她好累,且都沒有自己的時間。
辛苦的陸陸和先生住在外面,家中沒有人可以帶把手的幫一下,也沒有有經驗的人可以請教,所以遇到狀況,都是先上網看一下別人怎麼說;但常陷入另一個問題,就是寶寶的情況跟網路上找到的資訊,有時只有一小部分類似,有時真的不知道要如何辨識,所以陸陸心中壓力好大,每次寶寶哭鬧不停時,她也會覺得是自己沒有照顧好。
感覺陸陸是個可愛的年輕小媽咪,她說查了幾次網路資訊,也不確定到底找到的是不是正確答案,後來她決定打電話跟人請教,這樣效率比較快,資訊也會比較多。
但她也很想有人可以聊聊天,陪她說說話,所以,用一樣的方式來解決,找傾聽者,找陪聊師。
當我稱讚著陸陸的機智決定,她竟然有著害羞的反應,她說,已經很久沒有聽到別人稱讚她了。
我告訴她,辛苦她了,大家看到小寶寶,大部分的人幾乎都會先稱讚寶寶的,但這也是直接在稱讚媽媽的,小寶寶長得頭好壯壯,可愛極了,都是因有用心、溫柔的照顧,而這樣費心、用心的人,就是媽媽呀。
我知道她想要的是被看到的是她這個人,而不是寶寶的媽媽。陸陸說她不是在跟寶寶爭寵的,我明白的。
女性,很是辛苦的。
女孩,是先成為自己後,才是成為妻子和媽媽。
也因如此,當我看到很可愛的寶寶時,我都習慣先讚賞媽媽,肯定得回應她們的辛苦與用心,再誇獎可愛的寶寶。
而,為何我不是請宇宙祝福陸陸,而是祝福陸陸的寶寶。
因陸陸有我這位跨年朋友陪著呀。
且寶寶好,陸陸會更好。
所以就讓陸陸的寶寶,過著開心的寶寶生活,恣意的笑鬧,任性的喧騰,因為我們都知道,像大王、像皇后般被侍候的生活是只有短短的幾年呀。
2024.10.28 LuLu: The Rejoicer
Just a side note: I've been drawing this tarot card quite often lately, but I’ve been asking the universe for blessings for different cases each time. It seems that the universe, which has always been so profound, mysterious, and elusive, can’t help but gently remind us not to overthink—often, we’re just troubling ourselves unnecessarily. Life is about feeling and enjoying the journey of surprises.
Today, I asked the universe to send a tarot blessing to LuLu’s three-month-old baby: The Rejoicer.
LuLu mentioned that her baby’s routine has been a bit chaotic, leaving her exhausted with barely any time to herself. She and her husband live away from family, so there’s no one to lend a helping hand or offer experienced advice. When issues arise, she has to check online for guidance, though she often finds herself facing another problem: sometimes, her baby’s situation only partially resembles what she reads online, making it hard to figure out the right approach. This has left her feeling a lot of pressure, especially when her baby cries without stopping—she wonders if she’s not doing enough.
LuLu seems like a sweet young mom. She mentioned looking up information online several times but wasn’t sure if she’d found the right answers, so she decided to start calling others for advice. It’s quicker and more informative that way. Yet, she also wishes for someone to chat with, to just share her feelings, so she’s trying a similar approach by looking for a listener or a companion to talk to.
When I praised her clever decision, she shyly admitted that it had been a long time since anyone complimented her. I told her she’s doing a great job. Most people, when they see a baby, will first compliment the baby, but that’s also indirectly complimenting the mom. A healthy, happy baby is the result of attentive and gentle care—and the one who pours her heart into that is the mom.
I understand that she wants to be seen as herself, not just as the baby’s mom. LuLu clarified that she’s not competing with her baby for attention, and I get it.
It’s tough being a woman. A girl first becomes herself, then becomes a wife and a mother. Because of this, whenever I see a cute baby, I make it a habit to first appreciate the mom, acknowledging her hard work and dedication, and then praise the adorable baby.
And why did I ask the universe to bless LuLu’s baby instead of LuLu herself? It’s because she has a friend in me, a companion for the years to come. And when her baby is happy, LuLu will be even happier.
So, let LuLu’s baby live the joyful life of a little one—laughing, playing, being wonderfully noisy. Because we all know, that life of being pampered like a little king or queen lasts only a few precious years.
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