朋友遲到了，居然還罵我

Today, I got chewed out because my friend was running late. So, I gave him a piece of my mind: "Why were you so late today? Next time, can you try to be on time and not waste everyone else's time?" But then, I got an earful for thirty whole minutes.

"Why didn't you first check if I had a car accident?" "Didn't it occur to you to ask if I was overworked and too exhausted to get up?" "Couldn't you show a little concern and find out if I was facing any difficulties?"

After getting scolded, I was pretty ticked off at first. My initial reaction was like, "Come on, you were the one running late, and you're still pointing fingers at me? What's up with you? Are you singling me out or something?" I also felt pretty put out, thinking that my point of view wasn't being heard. I mean, you were the late one, and I can't even speak my mind?

But then, I had a change of heart. I figured this train of thought wasn't doing anyone any favors. Even if I was feeling peeved, I should approach the situation calmly and take my time to explain my side of the story. Plus, as he suggested, it wouldn't hurt to check if he had run into any accidents on the way. After all, when it comes to important people, their safety should always come first. Being safe and sound is what truly matters.

Moreover, if we can't really have a proper conversation, it's not a big deal to not have this friend. Why should I stress myself out? After all, getting all worked up is no good for the liver.

If it comes to that, it's no sweat to lose this friend. If this person vanishes from my life, I see it as fate doing its thing, and it's time to move on.

我今天被罵了──因為我朋友晚到

所以我唸了他：「你今天怎麼晚到了？下次能不能早一點，浪費別人時間。」

然後我就被罵了三十分鐘

「你就不會先關心一下我是不是出車禍了？」

「不會先關心一下我是不是工作太辛苦，所以太累起不來？」

「不會先關心一下我遇到什麼困難？」

被罵完，我一開始很生氣。

我第一個想法是：「明明是你遲到，你居然還有臉怪我。你這個人怎麼這個樣子，你是不是針對我？」第二個情緒是委屈，覺得不被理解。你遲到了我連說說你都不行嗎？

後來，轉念一想。我覺得這個想法好像沒有幫助。我就算不滿也應該很平和、語速緩慢的和他說明我的不滿，和他溝通。另外，就照他說的先關心他路上有沒有遇到意外也未嘗不可。畢竟，如果是重要的人，安全是第一位的。平平安安就是好事。

再退一步，如果真的無法溝通。那這個朋友不要也沒什麼關係，我何必要折磨自己的身體呢？生氣傷肝呢。

大不了就是沒有這個朋友。這個人從我生命中消失，我覺得那就是緣分到了，該結束了。