愛自己、活出你的設計

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你有沒有意識到，在我給你的所有這些方面的描述中，真正的解決方案是能夠提供或提供對他們的關係有益的建議，它總是回到他們自己？它總是回到他們是誰、他們如何過他們的生活、他們是否按照他們的本性過他們的生活。

如果你按照你的本性過你的生活，這就是了。這與你現在可能處於的關係無關。它是關於你今天、明天、後天和大後天建立的聯繫。即將開始看到，如果你的運作正確，你就會開始改變你與他人聯繫的方式，以及在非我與人聯繫的方式中看起來如此明顯的問題，其中大部分問題只是逐漸消失，至少從你的角度來看是如此。與他人在一起意味著什麼，在很大程度上就是我們自己。

我的教導不是「愛你的鄰居」。我並不反對「愛你的鄰居」，雖然我從來沒有過那種場合。我的情況是你愛自己。如果你能愛自己，如果你能愛自己，那就是你自己，這是你的正確之處，是你與眾不同的自我，你是你唯一的權威，那麼你真的對愛持開放態度。

這並不意味著它會在那裡。這只是意味著你真的對它持開放態度。 而且你沒有攜帶任何條件。你沒有攜帶任何「它必須是這樣或那樣，或這樣或那樣」。這一切都始於自我，也始於你今生的運作方式。

在查看他們的設計時，你首先要看的是他們的性質和這些類型的組合。告訴與Projector 在一起的 Generator 這是一個巨大的錯誤並（建議他倆）離婚並沒有任何好處。它沒有任何好處。在大多數情況下，你可以做的是，通過讓他們回歸他們自己，給他們一個暗示，當他們走到一起時可能會發生什麼，他們可以開始看到這種關係中固有的真正好處。但是我們在這裡提供給他們的大部分東西都是可以帶來解脫的東西。獨立的臥室讓人放鬆。知道如何一起做決定會讓人鬆一口氣。這些對我們來說非常非常重要。

人類圖/人類設計無法判斷什麼工作好或不好。我們也不能告訴你。人類圖/人類設計提供了一種工具來告訴你自己，去發現你自己。這就是所謂的策略與權威。現實是，要改變你的生活，你會改變你表面上、世俗層面上的生活，改變你每天做的事情、改變你的生活方式，如果你正確地生活，也就是說，如果你按照你的策略和權威來生活，那麼你就會得到適合你的過程和適合你的人生方向。

Do you realize that in every description I give you about all of these aspects, the real solution in terms of being able to provide or offer them advice that can be beneficial to their relationship, it always returns to themselves? It always returns to who they are and how they live their life and do they live their life according to their nature.

If you're living your life according to your nature, this is the thing. It's not about the relationship that you may be in now. It is about the connections that you will make today and tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. It is about beginning to see that if you're operating correctly, you begin to change the way in which you connect to the other and the problems that seem so obvious in the not-self way of connecting to people, most of those problems just peter away, at least from your side of the perspective. So much of what it means to be with the other is what it is to be within ourselves.

My teaching is not „ love thy neighbour.' I don't have anything against loving your neighbour, though I've never had that occasion. My thing is you love yourself. If you can love yourself and if you can love what is yourself in the sense that it is you, it is what is correct about you, it is your differentiated self, you are your only authority, then you're really open to love.

It doesn't mean it's going to be there. It just means that you're really open to it. And you're not carrying any conditions. You're not carrying any 'it's got to be this or that, or this way or that way.' It all begins with the self and it all begins with the way in which you operate in this life.

The first thing you're going to look at when looking at their designs, you have to see their nature and these combinations of Type. It doesn't do any good to tell a Generator who's with a Projector that this is an enormous mistake and get divorced. It doesn't do any good. What you can do in most of these cases is that by returning them to themselves and by giving them a hint of what's possible when as themselves they come together, they can begin to see the real benefit that is inherent in the relationship. But most of the things we're here to offer them are things that bring relief. The separate bedroom brings relief. Knowing how to make decisions together brings relief. These are things that are very, very important for us.

Human Design is not able to tell what job is good or not good. Nor are we able to tell you that. Human design offers a tool to tell it to yourself, to find out yourself. It's called Strategy and Authority. The reality is that to make a difference in your life you make a difference in your life on the surface, on the mundane plane, the things that you do every day, the way in which you live your life and if you live it correctly, that is, if you live it according to your Strategy and Authority then you get the process that is correct for you and the direction in this life that is correct for you.