My advice for someone in their 10s /希望有人在我十多歲就告訴我這些事

1. Develop an Exercise Habit

I realized late that exercise is more than just physical activity; it has many benefits. Proper exercise promotes physical health, team sports (e.g., basketball, doubles badminton) cultivate teamwork, and when faced with stressful situations, moving around can boost serotonin, improving our mental health. You can also make friends through ball sports. So, start building an exercise habit early!

2. Don't Always Follow the Crowd

In your teenage years, you may desire to be part of a group and mimic your peers. But remember, everyone is an individual, so it’s okay to be different sometimes.

3. Cultivate a Healthy Hobby

After entering the workforce, even if you love your job, there will be times when you feel down. This is when hobbies can enrich your life. For example, tasting coffee, tea, reasonably following a celebrity, reading novels, or writing articles.

4. Keep a Journal Regularly

People tend to forget and unconsciously alter their memories, so keeping a journal regularly helps you remember. Another benefit is that a few years later, when you look back, you’ll see how much you’ve progressed and changed, and you’ll recall how you used to think.

5. Open Your Heart

There are good people and bad people in this world, and both good and bad traits can exist in the same person. When you meet someone you feel you can trust, try to open your heart a bit, e.g., confide in your parents or friends, or offer to take photos for couples who want a picture together. It might be a good decision. Of course, also protect yourself and avoid threats.

6. Be Brave

Being brave doesn’t mean fearing nothing; it means being aware of the risks but still mustering up the courage.

7. Keep Trying to Find What You Want to Do

Finding something you want to do is a blessing. Some people are lucky enough to know early on what they want to do, while others take a long time to find it. I don’t know which type you are, but please keep trying to find it. Trial and error is normal; don’t be discouraged.

8. Take Care of Your Eyes

Your eyes are the windows to your soul. Childhood to adolescence is a critical period for vision deterioration, so you must protect your eyes well during these years and take timely breaks. I know at this age, health may not feel important, but this is something that is not urgent yet very important, so I hope you take care of it.

9. Brush Your Teeth Properly & Use Dental Floss

After having dental work done, I realized how expensive it is. To save your future wallet and avoid the pain of dental surgery, learn how to brush your teeth properly and use dental floss before bed! Flossing is really important.

10. You Don't Have to Go to College at 18

Everyone has their own timeline. If you have other plans after graduating high school, you can pursue them first. You don’t have to be fixated on going to college at 18 or 19. After a few years of experience, going back to college might bring unexpected maturity. Of course, convincing your parents is another matter.

11. Reconcile with Your Parents

Your children are not your children, and similarly, your parents are not your parents. We are all just humans who make mistakes. Don’t be too harsh on your parents (except in extreme cases).

P.S. You can use holidays as an excuse to hug your parents and say, "I love you."

12. Cherish Every Meeting

How long has it been since you connected with your elementary, middle, or high school friends? Sometimes, the last time may truly be the last time. So, treat each meeting as if it’s the last, making each encounter fulfilling.

13. The Internet Is a Double-Edged Sword

The internet can do many things, e.g., learning foreign university courses, discussing knowledge with strangers in distant places, and making it easier to chat with others. But the internet also has many dangers, e.g., luring children, hijacking your attention. Be careful and use the internet wisely.

14. Don't Hate Learning

Learning is not just about studying in school; learning to walk, learning your native language, and learning to sew are all forms of learning. Enjoy learning :)

Many aspects of school make people dislike learning, but school has its limitations, so don’t let it make you hate learning.

15. Increase Your IQ, EQ, and FQ (Financial Intelligence)

Reading more and thinking more can increase your IQ.

Interacting more with people and reflecting on it can increase your EQ.

Reading quality financial books can increase your FQ.

Deliberately practicing these three points during your student years is a blessing because you will have a deeper understanding of the world.

16. Don't Be Afraid of Failure

Resilience is something Taiwanese students lack. I can’t teach you how to have resilience, but only by encountering setbacks can you develop it.

People learn from mistakes; try, fail, adjust, and become a better version of yourself.

17. Persistence and Hard Work Are Still Important

Persistence and hard work are worthy of admiration and praise. The internet shows us many cases of teenagers getting rich, teenage stock gods, influencers getting rich overnight. Seeing these examples makes us itch to get rich and famous quickly. However, many things require steady and diligent effort. Every industry has its own context and pace; don’t be too envious of others. Persistence and hard work are wonderful qualities. Keep it up!

18. Love Yourself

Love yourself a little more. Only when you love yourself can you have the energy to love others.

This was advice from an accounting teacher, which has nothing to do with accounting but is helpful in life. At the end of the semester, the teacher reminded us of several life tips, and this was one of them.

I completely agree; if you don’t love yourself enough, you will feel drained when trying to love others. Your energy will be insufficient, so before longing for love, love yourself a little more.

P.S. There are many types of love: familial love, the love from teachers and classmates, sibling love—all of these require self-love to have the energy to love others.

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What do you wish someone had told you in your teens? If you have any, please share them in the comments.

After celebrating your single-digit or teenage birthdays, each year’s birthday is no longer about the excitement of growing up but the realization of getting older. But life is far more than that; there are still many things to look forward to!

1.培養一個運動習慣

我很晚才知道運動不只是運動，他有很多好處。適當的運動可以促進身體健康、團體的運動(e.g. 籃球、雙打羽球)可以培養團隊合作、遇到煩躁的事情，動一動增加血清素，幫助我們的mental health、也可以藉由球類運動以球會友。

所以趁早養成運動習慣吧~

2.偶爾不用從眾

十幾歲的年紀，渴望是一個團體的一份子，也會模仿同儕。但記得，每個人都是獨立的個體，所以偶爾和別人不一樣沒關係。

3.培養一個健康的嗜好

出社會後，就算再喜歡的工作，有時候也會覺得苦悶，所以這時候就需要興趣點綴生活。e.g.品嘗咖啡、茶、合理的追星、看小說、寫文章。

4.定期寫日記

人會遺忘和不自覺竄改自己的記憶，因此定期寫日記，是為了記得。第二個好處是，在幾年之後往回看，你會發現自己進步很多、也改變很多，原來自己以前是這樣想的。

5.敞開心胸

世上有好人也有壞人，好/壞也同時存在在一個人身上。遇到感覺可以信任的人時，嘗試敞開一點心胸e.g.跟父母/朋友說心事、遇到情侶想要合照可以主動幫忙拍照。或許是不錯的決定。當然，也要好好保護自己，不讓自己受到威脅。

6.勇敢一點

勇敢不是什麼都不怕，而是知道風險卻鼓起勇氣。

7.要持續嘗試自己將來要幹嘛

能找到一個想做的事是很幸福的，有的人很幸運可以在很小的時候就知道自己要幹嘛，有的人卻要花很久時間才找的到。不知道你是哪種人，但是請你要時時的嘗試去找。try & error是常態，不要灰心。

8.注意用眼

眼睛是靈魂之窗，兒童到青少年時期是眼睛度數增加的好發期，這十幾年間真的要好好保護眼睛，適時的休息。我知道這個年紀對健康會沒什麼感覺，但是這是不緊急但很重要的東西，所以希望你可以注意。

9.正確的刷牙方式&用牙線

做過牙齒後，才知道做牙齒真的很貴，所以為了你未來的荷包以及牙齒手術的痛，早早學習如何正確的刷牙，以及睡前的用牙線!牙線真的很重要。

10.18歲不一定要讀大學

每個人都有自己的時區，若高中畢業後有其他想法，可以先去執行，不一定要執著於18、19就上大學。經過幾年的沉澱，再去讀大學可能會有意想不到的成熟。當然，要如何說服父母又是另一個議題。

11.與父母和解

你的孩子不是你的孩子，同樣的，你的父母不是你的父母。我們都只是凡人，都會犯錯，不要太苛責自己的父母。(太誇張的除外)

p.s.可以藉由佳節壯膽，抱抱父母說聲ily。

12.一期一會

多久沒跟國小、國中、高中朋友連繫了，有時候，上一次就是最後一次了。因此在每次的見面，要有這是最後一次的心態，讓每次見面都能夠是滿足的。

13.網路是兩面刃

網路可以做很多事e.g.學習國外大學課程、與異地的陌生人探討知識、更容易的與旁人聊天。但網路也有很多危害e.g.誘惑小孩子、綁架你的注意力。請小心，也請好好利用網路。

14.不要討厭學習

學習不單指在學校讀書，學走路、學母語、學裁縫都是學習，請享受學習:)

很多面向導致學校讓人討厭學習，學校是有侷限在的，所以不要被學校影響而討厭學習。

課外閱讀:天篷教育：讓孩子追求卓越的環境設定三部曲（上）

15.盡量增加智商、情商和財商

多讀書、多思考可以增加智商。

多與人互動、並反思可以增加情商。

多閱讀優質理財書籍可以增加財商。

學生時代刻意的練習上述三點，是幸福的。因為你會比別人有更深刻的理解局勢。

16.不要害怕失敗

韌性(resilience)是台灣學生缺乏的，我無法教你要如何有韌性。唯有遇到挫折，才能生出韌性。

人會在一次一次錯誤中學到東西的，嘗試=>錯誤=>修正=>自己2.0

17.努力和恆心雖然老套但依舊重要

努力和恆心是值得敬佩與讚許。網路讓我們看到很多少年致富、少年股神、網紅，一夜致富的案例，看著這些例子，讓我們心癢癢的，也想要迅速致富、成名。然而，很多事其實是要一步一腳印的努力。每個產業有不同的脈絡和步伐，不要太過羨慕忌妒他人。努力和恆心是很棒的一個特質~加油!

18.愛自己

多愛自己一點，愛自己後才有餘力愛別人:)

這是我在一門會計學的老師提醒我們的，其實跟會計學完全無關，但對人生是有幫助的。老師在全學期的最後，提醒我們幾個人生要點，這是其中一點。

我很認同，如果不夠愛自己，在愛別人的過程會感到青黃不接，你自己能量都不足了，何來餘裕去給予別人。因此在盼望愛情前，先多愛自己一點吧!

p.s.愛有好幾種愛，親情之愛、師長之愛、同學之愛、手足之愛，這些都是要先愛自己才有能量愛別人~

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各位有什麼-希望有人在我十多歲就告訴我這些事嗎，如果有，可以寫在留言上~

當過了個位數或十位數的生日後，每年生日不是體驗長大的刺激，而是感嘆又老了一歲。但人生遠遠不止這樣，依舊有很多值得到來的事情!