It's "I did a bad thing" not "I am a bad person"

It's "I tried and failed" not "I am a failure"

It's "I did it wrong" not "I am wrong"

How you talk to yourself defines your self. Be careful what you say.

有人說self-talk的內容很重要，的確如此。如果連你自己都不做自己的後盾，難到純靠別人嗎？人要自我檢討但不是自我貶抑，認清這點非常重要。

而樓中一個回應我也好喜歡，很多人說過但也還有很多人不懂：

You are not defined by your failures, you're defined by how you react to failures

事已發生也沒有時光機，可以做的不是後悔而是收拾心情然後思考對策。你的選擇和行為才是定義你這個人的點。

Source：https://substack.com/@pathsofstoicism/note/c-151498545