Projector是家庭中超級奴隸：「永遠不夠好」

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身為導能者，原生家庭真的是「苦澀之源」。不僅家人對導能者「視而不見」，還嫌導能者做得不夠好、不夠多。我求學的少年時期，就順勢而為，搬出去住。一來可培養獨立生活的能力，二來，可避開很多家庭矛盾與衝突。

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如果你是Projector（導能者/投射者/策劃者），那麼要牢記的最重要事情之一，就是家庭（關係）非常非常扭曲。有些人確實是為此目的而設計的。如果你是Generator（生產者），則可以將其包攬起來。你的設計目的是要納入其他類型的人。他們去參加感恩節大餐，儘管事實如此，但你正在推進的Aura（能量場）將你放置在那裡，並讓你駐足並保持在那裡。這是沒關係的。

但是，如果你是導能者，則導能者應該置身群組之外。宜往內導向，而不是在群組內部失去所有力量。導能者進入群組的那一刻，就是他們失去引導能力並成為奴隸的那一刻。

家庭中的大多數導能者都是該家庭的超級奴隸。這是家庭施展所有壓力的地方。這是全家人使你感到內疚的地方。這是家人設下糾結的地方。這是你「永遠不夠好」的地方，因為你從來都不是Manifestor（顯現者），因此，你永遠無法真正把事情做好，而且還承受著所有這些壓力。所有這些導能者，當他們回家拜訪時，確實會發瘋。非常令人沮喪的是，他們失去了身份，也失去了力量。

我總是必須非常小心，我是Manifestor（顯現者），我的發言有影響力，所以你還必須看到另一面。我暫時不建議所有導能者都保持獨身，永遠不要有家庭，所有類似的這些東西。真的不是那個意思。但，這實際上與瞭解你的天性有關。你是一對一的最佳人選。因此，如果你要去參加一個家庭聚會，那就不必陷入以下的困境：不必坐在「水坑」中間，避免將自己拖入一個不存在的地方。你需要一對一的接觸。一次與一個人打交道。嘗試不要陷入困境，尤其是不要陷入其中一種情況，即每個人都圍坐在桌子旁說「喬治或喬尼有問題，我們該怎麼辦？」你知道會被那種事情拖入其中。你的指導將永遠不會被接受。身為導能者並看待家人的第一件事是，你的家人不認同你的智慧，不認為你可以當指導。

導能者的孩子通常看著父母，然後說「啊哈，耶穌！」（天啊！）這是導能者的特質。你看著你的父母「啊，不！」但是，你不能說出來，因為你只是五歲罷了，你無法告訴媽媽該怎麼做。你不能告訴她理順她的生活。你可以嘗試，它不一定會有效。儘管如此，你可以嘗試，但你需要重新瞭解導能者的含義。我的意思是我知道，我是Manifestor（顯現者）。我有一個封閉而排斥的Aura（能量場）。我擅長處理家庭處境。我的意思是我不想讓任何人靠近我，更不用說在這種環境下我會受到歡迎，當然，他們都希望你做這種事情，那是由Aura（能量場）產生的不可思議的冷漠。我們所有人都必須接受我們的天性並進行明智的補償。從基本瞭解任何一種機制的那一刻起，你得到的就是一種工具。你知道自己得到了一種視見（seeing）方式。好的，這就是它的工作方式，我該如何利用這一點？

Projectors & Families If you’re a projector, one of the things that's really essential to keep in mind is that families are very, very distorting. There are people that are really designed for that. If you’re a generator, you're designed to envelop. You're designed to take in those sorts of others. They go to Thanksgiving dinner and despite the fact that there’s this and that's about it, you're developing aura puts you there and it keeps you there and hold you there. It's all okay.

But if your projector, projectors are supposed to be on the outside of the group. Directing inward, rather than being on the inside of the group and losing all their power. The moment that a projector gets into the group, is the moment that they lose their capacity to guide and become conditioned to be a slave.

Most projectors in families are the family’s super slave. This is where the family puts all the pressure. This is where the family puts all the guilt. This is where the family puts the trip. This is where you’re at your never-good-enough, because you were never a manifestor, that you can never really get things done and there's all these pressures you got. All these projectors, when they go home for a family visit, they really go nuts. It's very depressing they lose their identity and that they lose their power.

I always have to be careful, I’m a manifestor and what I say has impact, so you also have to see the other side. I'm not suggesting for a moment that all you, projectors be celibate, never have families, all that kind of stuff. It really isn't about that. But it really is about understanding your nature. You're at your best one on one. So, if you're going to go to a family gathering put yourself in the kind of situation where you don't have to sit in the middle of the puddle and get yourself dragged into a level that's not there. Make your one-on-one contacts. Deal with one person at a time. Try not to get caught in and particularly don't get in one of those situations where everybody sits around the table and says “George or Joni has a problem what should we do”? you know the kind of thing where you get dragged into the inside of that. Your guidance is never going to be accepted. It's the first thing to realize about being a projector and looking at your families, is that your families don't recognize your wisdom, don't recognize that you can be a guide.

Projector children normally look at their parents and go “aha, Jesus!” This is the projector thing. You look at your parents “ah, nooo!” and you can't tell, you’re five years old, you can’t tell your mother what to do. You can’t tell her to straighten up her life. You can try, it isn't necessarily going to be effective. Never the less you can try, you can do that thing, but it's something to understand again about what it is to be a projector. I mean I know, I am a manifestor. I have a close and repelling Aurora. I'm great at family situations. I mean I don't want anybody to come near me, let alone that I'm welcomed in that kind of environment, and of course they all want you to do that kind of thing, there’s incredible disinterest that rises out the aura. We all have to accept our nature and compensate for it intelligently. The moment that you understand any kind of mechanic basically, what you're being given is, you’ve being given a tool. You know you're being given a way of seeing. All right this is the way it works, how do I take advantage of this.