活出你的設計（四之四）：Projector 你知道怎麼說「不」嗎？

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這是關於你。不是別人。當有人在那裡並且需要拒絕他們時，你就拒絕他們！這是關於你的。不關他們的事。他們不喜歡也沒關係。或者，如果這樣做而傷害了他們的感情。或這個或那個。什麼？你知道的，大件事！是關於你的。如果你不保護自己，沒有人會。這裡沒有人會照顧你。

這是神話。我們只是在這裡照顧自己。否則，你會迷失在馬戲團中。對於導能者來說，這就是要站穩自己的內在自主權並能夠說不，不！真是一個偉大的字，是嗎？我的意思是我愛「不」。不，真的很酷。我是一個意志力中心（ego）有定義的人，當我說「是」時，這意味著它就是行。那是顧名思義的。是的，行得通；是的，可行。

不，就好像不行。我喜歡說不。這樣嗎？不！太棒了，然後他們不再打擾你，這真的很好，對嗎？不！而且你以為如果你長期告訴他們「不」，他們將不會再問你」。這不是真的。他們不斷回來要求更多。他們繼續努力。「我要⋯⋯」「不！」成為一種疾病。「我要那個！」「不」。這就是吸引力。

你看，一個導能者不瞭解的是，他們是其他人所需要的數量。實話實說。就像超市貨架上的東西。「我喜歡那個，我想要一些」，我來找你，你卻說「不」。在你的一生中，你一直在說是，對吧？因此，你最終成為那種商品。他們完全按照找到你的方式對待你。你在說「不」的那一刻立即感到困惑。他們遇到了問題。啊，這不應該是這樣做的。你應該只是接入，一切都會變得很酷。而你為什麼不這樣做呢？（因為）他們真的很難過。他們有問題。他們無法利用你。他們要引起你的注意。直到導能者瞭解到這是你最大的資產，這才是其他人可以忍受的東西。因為他們喜歡關注。

全人類都喜歡關注。不是嗎？大家都是這樣。而且你看，你沒有從Generator（生產者）那裡得到關注。你沒有。因為它從來都不是私人的。就是這個（生產者）美好的包圍式Aura（能量場）。你可以（跟生產者）在一起，從不與他們交談，他們很高興你在那兒，你很高興他們在那兒，彼此之間沒有任何關係，而你只是在他的懷裡，大家都很好！不，導能者！人類的自我意識很差，他們害怕說不，他們真的害怕，因為他們認為適合自己的東西永遠不會出現。因此，他們將接受第二好、第三好、第四好、第五好（的東西）。因為他們擔心不會再接入任何東西。

而你需要瞭解的就是對方想要他們，喜歡他們的注意力，愛他們的注意力，需要他們的關注。這不像你現在所擁有的，與非我導能者（在一起），就是導能者從他人身上吸收能量的神話。水蛭式的導能者，那是一種幻象。但是，事實是，它實際上是在非我中運作，是別人希望得到關注。並忍受著榨取，因為他們要關注。

對他們而言，關注比對他們認為在互動中失去的煩惱更有價值。他們需要關注。因為他們覺得自己不值得。他們不覺得有人愛他們。「哦，哦，他/她關注我，哦，我感覺很好！」多好啊！但他很受歡迎！導能者非常容易習以為常，容易陷入沈迷，阻擋在它們和整體之間的能力，就是能夠舉起他們的手，說不，不。我只會在我想接入的地方接入。我不想錯過任何東西。當你這樣做時，你會學到一些奇妙的東西。你開始看到自己的力量。如你所見，他們不會消失。一旦對他們那樣做，他們將永遠不會消失，永不。我的意思是，即使它們相距數千英里，它們也永遠不會消失。他們晚上入睡時會想，也許這次我可以引起他們的注意。你會看到當你將它們打發而去時，便開始認出自己是誰。你是有價值的，必須根據自己的價值受到對待。你會看到，他們會回來。這很有趣，你可以開始享受說不，不是今天，不是，不是，不是。我不用那種柴油的。今天不需要那個。如此簡單，當它來自內在的勇氣時，你就可以在自我中活得很好。

This is about you. Not anybody else. When somebody is there and they need to be rejected, you reject them! It is about you. Not about them. Doesn’t matter if they don't like it. Or if it hurts their feelings. Or this or that. What? You know, big deal! It's about you. If you do not protect yourself, no one will. There’s nobody here to look after you.

This is the myth. We are only here to look after ourselves. Otherwise you're lost in the circus. And for a projector this is something, only to stand in their own authority and to be able to say NO, NO! Such a great word, hey? I mean I love “no”. No is really cool. I'm an ego person when I say yes it just means work. That’s immediate translation. Yes – work, yes – work. No was like no - work. I love to say no. This? No! terrific and they leave you alone, which is really nice, right? No! And you think if you tell them “no’ long enough they won't ask you anymore. It’s not true. They keep coming back for more. They keep trying. “Can I” “No!” Becomes a disease. “I want that!” “no”. The power seduction.

You see what a projector doesn't understand is that they are a quantity that the other wants. Literally. Like an item on the shelf in the supermarket. “I like that, I want some of that” and I come to you and you go “No”. In all your life you’ve been saying yes, right? So you end up being that commodity. They treat you exactly the way they found you. The moment you say “no” there is immediately confused. They got a problem. Ah, this wasn't supposed to work this way. You were supposed to just plug in and everything was going to be cool. And why aren't you doing that? They get really upset. They've got a problem. They can’t use you. They want your attention. Until the projector understands that, this is your greatest asset, this is the thing that allows other people to put up with you. Cause they love attention.

All human beings love attention. Don't we? We all do. And you see, you don't get attention from generators. You don't. Because it’s never personal. It's just this nice enveloping aura. You can be there and never talk to them and they're happy you're there and you're happy they’re there and you don't have anything to do with each other and you're just in his arms, all okay! No projector! Human beings have such a bad sense of themselves, that they are afraid to say No, they’re afraid, because they don't think that what's right for them will ever come. So they'll take second best, third best, fourth best, fifth best. Because they're afraid that there won’t be that thing that they can plug into. And all you have to understand is the other wants them, loves their attention, loves their attention, needs their attention. It's not like what you have now, with the not-self projector, is the myth, that the projector sucks energy from others. The leech projector, that illusion. But the fact of the matter is, that the way it actually operates in the not-self, is that the other wants that attention. And puts up with the leeching, because they want the attention.

The attention is more valuable to them than the annoyance of whatever they think they're losing in the interaction. They want the attention. Cause they don't feel worthy. They don't feel that anybody loves them. How nice “oh, oh, he/she he paid attention to me, Oh, do I feel good!” But it sells! Projectors get used so easily, they get hooked and the thing that stands between them and wholeness is the ability to put up their hand and say NO, NO. I'm only going to plug in where I want to plug in. I'm not gonna miss anything. And you see when you do that, you learn something wonderful. You begin to see your power. Because you see, they’re not gonna go away. Once you do that to them, they will never go away, never. I mean even if they’re thousands of miles physically away, they will never go away. They will go to sleep at night thinking, maybe this time I can get their attention. You see when you send them away, you begin to recognize who you are. That you are valuable and that you have to be treated according to your worth. And you’ll see, they’ll come back. And it's fun, you can begin to enjoy say no, not today, no, no, no. I don't use that kind of diesel. Don't need that today. So easy, when it comes from inner courage, that you can be all right with in yourself.