另請高明
- 我看到了一篇文章 消防、護理、教師，為什麼愈「社會奉獻」的職業愈易受剝削？
- 讓我聯想到其他事情，我的腦袋跳的很快。從我被剝削，上課沒領錢到以下感想
- 上課沒領錢，這社會一堆免費仔，我可能之後有空再寫一篇文章 寫我遇到的事情
- 此篇是自由書寫，所以閱讀體驗可能不佳
- 此篇可能跟剝削也有點關，因為我是給家長免費諮詢，我花時間回答你各種問題，接待各種有錢就是大爺態度 的大爺 ，還沒有適當報酬 = =!
P.S. 此篇是抱怨文
麻煩不喜歡者，誤入
One day
A parent said, "My kid is struggling a lot. Could you help him out?"
"I'll do my best. But it'll depend on where he's at and how he's doing."
Then the parent started griping about the previous tutoring center, saying their kid is in ninth grade, so how could the teacher be teaching 8-grade stuff. I was just speechless. I tried to explain to the parent that teaching should be tailored to the individual, adjusting what's taught based on the kid's level and how well they're getting it.
But the parent kept insisting that since their kid is in ninth grade, they should be able to grasp ninth-grade material.
I...
Had some ideal thoughts, but reality bites.
"I can't guarantee that. It depends on how things are going in class and whether the student is getting it or not."
I tried to reason with the parent that if I stick strictly to ninth-grade material and the kid doesn't get it, can I start from easier stuff and then work back up to ninth grade? The parent said no, it has to be ninth-grade stuff only.
So, I brought up another scenario. If I see the kid isn't getting what I'm teaching because it's too tough, can I simplify things?
The parent said yes, but it has to stick to what's being taught in school. But if I see the kid's lost and they're telling me they don't get it, and all I can do is teach them stuff they don't understand, isn't that rough on both of us?
Isn't it just a waste of time? The parent said, "Doesn't matter. You've got to find a way to make it work."
I asked, "Can I start from the basics?" The parent said, "Nope. Stick to what they're doing in school."
I just couldn't deal with it. If all you care about is keeping up with school, you might as well go to a big class. The parent said, "But my kid doesn't get it in those big classes, that's why I'm shelling out for expensive private tutoring like yours."
I can promise progress, but you've got to let me adjust what I'm teaching and how fast we're going.
The parent said, "You charge a pretty penny, so you better make sure my kid's learning what they need to from school."
So, how's your kid's study habits? Can they handle the stuff from their grade level?
The parent said, "I dunno. That's something you should figure out." I felt like I was banging my head against a wall. And I just couldn't accept it.
So, I said maybe we're not the right fit, and suggested they find someone else.
Sigh! Let's respect each other and not act like money's all that matters.
Another thing
Last time, I got chewed out for not finishing the material on time, and I was just scratching my head. Should I just ignore whether the students are getting it next time and just rush through it?
But if I go too fast, they won't understand! Plus, understanding takes practice, which takes time. You want me to finish teaching? I can do that, but the students will suffer.
They'll say I'm going too fast, they can't keep up, and it'll just end up being a waste of time. Communication really is a tough nut to crack.
Please, let's not doubt the expertise of teachers. Don't throw things off.
Our time is valuable too.
三條線
有一種案子我不會接
就是 教學理念不同吧
好幾年前，我遇到過一位家長
學生是一位國三生，我沒有看過。因為在和家長接洽時，我直接請他去別的地方了
我們不適合
事情是這樣的
有一天，我遇到一位家長 說
「老師，我小孩程度很差。你可不可以把他教會。」
「可以。但要視他的程度和學習狀況去調整。」
接著家長開始抱怨前一間補習班，說他的小孩子國三，老師怎麼可以教國二的東西
我聽著很無言
跟家長溝通，教學應該要因材施教，要看小孩的程度和理解力去調整上課教材和講課速度。但是家長堅持，他小孩國三，就應該要聽懂國三課程
我......
想法很理想，但現實很骨感。
「這我沒辦法保證，要看上課情況和學生的理解力來決定，應該要上什麼。」
我和家長溝通，如果我直接上國三學校進度，學生聽不懂，我是不是可以從國一或國二的內容開始教起，再回到國三進度。
家長說不可以，就是只能教國三的學校進度
那我又說了一種情況詢問此家長。如果我知道我講的內容太深奧，學生聽不懂，我是不是能講簡單一點的內容。
家長說可以，但只能限制在目前學校進度
那如果我知道我講的東西他聽不懂，學生也反映聽不懂。但我只能講他聽不懂的東西，那不是我很痛苦，學生也很痛苦嗎？
那不是就是叫他坐在那裏，浪費時間而已嗎？
家長說：「不管。你一定要想辦法讓他懂。」
我又問了一個問題：「請問我有權從基礎教起嗎？」
家長說：「不行。你只能上學校進度。」
我覺得我無法接受，如果你只要上學校進度，你去大團班就可以。
家長：「但是我小孩在大團班裡面聽不懂，所以我才要請你們這種昂貴的一對一家教老師。」
我可以保證學生進步，但是你要給我調整上課內容和進度的權力。
家長：「你們一堂課那麼貴，就是應該要讓我小孩可以學會目前學校教的內容。」
請問你小孩的讀書習慣怎麼樣？他目前可以看懂幾年級的課程？
家長：「我不知道。這應該是你們要去調查的。」
我覺得我在鬼打牆
也覺得我沒辦法接受
所以就說，那我們彼此可能不適合，建議您去其他地方找適合的老師或團隊。
哀！
麻煩互相尊重，不要有花錢就是大爺的態度。
另一件事情
我上次被客訴進度沒有上完，我真的滿臉問號，要不然我下次不要理學生的理解力好了，反正我巴拉巴拉就講完了，但是我講太快他們會聽不懂啊！
而且聽懂了要練習，這都要花時間。
你要求我教完，我是可以教完，但學生就慘了，會反映老師教太快，聽不懂，反而浪費時間。
溝通真的是門大學問
麻煩不相信老師專業的，不要來亂
我們的時間也很寶貴
