Nucleus Family Is Eye of Storm 回到家庭，像是回到風暴中心。

This is a whimsical episode, that is, another unedited experimental article. Unlike the 5-min series, this is purely sharing articles I write out of a whim or a spark based on my recent realization. The experimental part goes further to the translation which will publish later.

Taking and giving are just dynamics.

There's no intrinsic flow nor entropy diagnosed.

Observer decides the entropy.

No one is perfect so no one is the same

If we're all perfect we are all the same, which lacks dynamic, thus boring if perceived by my kind and perchance not by some; whereas perceiving this matter can be fun.

"All the same" can be diagnosed as infinitely chaotic at the same level, thus infinitely fun but also boring.

We give dynamics value in dif ways, thus dif values of give and take, in and out, up and down, more and less, ying and yang.

I used to say: "I'm not perfect, dislike away'",

Now I'm reperceiving it: "I'm not perfect, you neither, thus we're different."

It's difference, not favor.

I don't have to trap myself nor anyone in emotional tangles due to difference anymore, cz I don't worry about favors anymore.

You do me a favor and me to you, either way it's not a matter of favor. It's a matter of difference not definition.

This is the tip to happiness. People get old to comprehend it, but I don't have time.

Love is the explanation.

I've got no time to explain.

"An ultimate flow state of love".

My prospect now:

If I really want something, that means I’m not taking action to get it.

For example if I want company, I'd say "I'm scared to be accompanied."

It seems false, but if I say: "I'm scared to be alone." That manifests.

However if I admit I'm afraid to be accompanied, I allow myself to be scared.

The Murphy's Law thus protects me.

And it's persistent.

Since it's true every time I get what I want without effort I feel guilty or ashamed, admitting I'm afraid to be granted what I want IMMEDIATELY is admitting I don't love myself enough. Perhaps I need more process and action to get it PERSONALLY, but if I GRANT myself what I want, I feel less guilty and eventually I can validate myself.

So I tell myself: "I'm scared to be accompanied," instead of "I'm scared of being alone";

"I'm scared to be understood," instead of "I'm scared to be misunderstood";

"I'm scared to be successful and rich and famous," instead of "I'm scared of failure, lack and dishonor;

'I'm scared to not showing my true self", instead of "I'm scared of showing my true self".

Admission takes more courage and encourages the YOU taking one step BACKWARD.

It takes much more courage to embrace. Showing weakness is not weak at all, but quite the opposite.

Admission is more powerful than commitment.

Admission is empowering a bigger space for that step you want to, not need to (not a NEED anymore), take, because in fact it's a "two step forward, based on a step backward".

Negativity is a spring. It helps you bounce.

The technique of using vulnerability includes using one’s own fear. So use with caution.

People find this technique useful are usually the people who lack action not courage, like me.

That's precisely why this works:

"I'm scared of taking that step" is only acknowledging an emotional state with a certain value, but "I'm scared of not taking that step" is a minus against minus, thus a plus, like a spring double-pressed, giving you that extra pump by convincing you to take a step backward, so you spare some time and space for yourself to reevaluate the consequences if you don’t take that leap. Usually, it works on people like us.

It works best on the pessimistic optimists.

I'll elaborate in the next whim.