2024 0902 給阿雄的祝福：女祭司 Priestess
阿雄，你好，今天的你提早到。你問是否可提早開始，剛好我也沒其他事情，於是我們就馬上開始今日的約談，並且開門見山地直接了解你遇到的問題還是困難。
你說，工作非常忙，今天和同事有一點小糾紛。
你說，你討厭現在的上班氣氛，同事之間不互相幫忙，該認真工作都不認真，整天只知道嘻皮笑臉。
曾經擔任人力資源工作的我馬上先了解，「主管知道嗎？主管有清楚你們團隊現在的工作狀況嗎？主管有採取任何行動嗎？」
你說，「主管知道，但不管，你講到很多次狀況，可是都沒有什麼幫助。」
還說，「主管說，那些都是新人，一些時間熟悉工作後，就不會這樣散漫了。」可是，沒有人告訴新人應該要做到什麼工作，都已經來一個月來，還是新人？你說，你很想吐槽主管這句話。
阿雄，很多工作，到職一個月而已，真的還只能算是新人，甚至即使到職三個月，也還是只有新人的程度。
我說，「會不會在對於新人的定義，你和主管的想法不同。」「你覺得怎樣的工作表現不算新人 … 。」我還沒說完想要表達的，心情不好的你搶話說道，「我很想跟老闆說，〝你知道你在說什麼嗎？時間是不等人的，其他人不上手，工作要做比較多的是你。」
接著，你不太想聽我說了，你持續說著，「根本沒辦法好好工作。」「上班不喜歡被外物影響。」「業務工作很競爭，沒有時間可以浪費。」
我能感受到現在的工作環境讓你感覺到窒悶，沒有被重視，甚至有被同事拖後腿的感覺。
我試著詢問，「有沒有試著跟同事溝通，大家一起努力工作 … 」。
我的話還是沒有機會說完，你說，「不想說太多，不想牽扯太多。」「已經浪費太多時間在這裡了。」「做得夠多，說的也很多，沒人贊同。」「需要更好的工作環境。」「繼續這樣下去不知道我可以撐多久。」「真的倒楣，工作遇到這些隊友。」
我趕緊插話說，「今天要不要先從修改履歷開始？」
你說，「也是可以，不過想要明天才開始。明天休假。」
都好，終究是要開始，要有行動，才會有機會改變。
於是最後我建議了，「履歷修改好後，先放下一兩天，然後再拿出來看，思考可以再如何調整，哪裡要修改，這樣履歷的品質會更優。」
你道謝後，說「心態不好，做什麼事情都做不好，亂手亂腳的。」「討厭這樣的心態在工作。」
我說，「也許你的好運就在你轉換的地方等著你。」
情緒還有點上頭的你說，「或許真是這樣。很多事情沒遇到不知道。」
我說，「只有前進才知道前方有什麼等著我們。」
你說，「沒錯，原地踏步怎麼會有成長。」然後接著說，「其實我自己已經決定好了想怎麼做。就從明天開始做。」
宇宙給阿雄的塔羅牌祝福和消息：【女祭司 Priestess】。
情緒遲遲無法冷靜的阿雄，不佳的情緒狀況會影響我們的思緒和判斷。能明白在紛紛擾擾與不開心的狀況下，冷靜是多麼不容易的事情。
不過我們都知道，沒有了冷靜，就沒有辦法客觀的審視情況，事情或同事也許沒有你現在認為的那麼糟糕。
喪失了冷靜，也會造成無法平衡的評估自己。
有的時候看似積極進取的決定與行為，其實是另一種消極的逃避與抗議。
試著讓自己come down一點，再決定要如何改變，有的時候改變，不一定是指環境的不同，而是我們的觀念與態度不同。
Blessings for Ah Hsiung on September 2, 2024: Priestess
Hello, Ah Hsiung. You arrived early today. You asked if we could start earlier, and since I had no other plans, we immediately began today's session, diving straight into understanding the issues or difficulties you are facing.
You said that work has been very busy, and today you had a minor dispute with a colleague.
You mentioned that you dislike the current work atmosphere, where colleagues don't help each other. Those who are supposed to work seriously don't, and they just fool around all day.
Having worked in human resources before, I immediately inquired, "Does your supervisor know? Are they aware of your team's current work situation? Have they taken any action?"
You said, "The supervisor knows but doesn't care. You've mentioned the situation many times, but nothing much has been done." You also mentioned, "The supervisor said that those are just new employees, and after some time getting familiar with the job, they won't be so lax." But no one has told these new employees what they are supposed to do. They've been here for a month; are they still considered new? You said you wanted to retort to the supervisor's comment.
Ah Hsiung, in many jobs, after just one month, you are still considered a newcomer. In fact, even after three months, you might still be at the level of a newcomer.
I said, "Perhaps your definition of a newcomer differs from your supervisor's. What kind of job performance do you consider to not be that of a newcomer...?" Before I could finish expressing my thoughts, you interrupted in your frustration, saying, "I really want to tell the boss, 'Do you even know what you're saying? Time waits for no one. If others don't get the hang of it, the ones who have to do more work are us.'"
Afterward, you were not too keen on listening to me. You continued, "I can't work properly in such an environment. I don't like external influences at work. The business environment is highly competitive, and there's no time to waste."
I can feel that the current work environment makes you feel stifled, undervalued, and even held back by your colleagues.
I tried to ask, "Have you tried communicating with your colleagues, encouraging everyone to work hard together...?"
Before I could finish, you said, "I don't want to say too much or get too involved. I've already wasted too much time here. I've done enough and said enough, but no one agrees. I need a better work environment. I don't know how long I can keep going if things continue like this. It's really unlucky to work with these teammates."
I quickly interjected, "How about starting by updating your resume today?"
You said, "That's also possible, but I'd rather start tomorrow. I'm off tomorrow."
That's fine. The important thing is to start; actions lead to opportunities for change.
Finally, I suggested, "After updating your resume, set it aside for a day or two, then review it again to see what can be adjusted or modified. This way, the quality of your resume will be even better."
After thanking me, you said, "When my mindset is off, nothing I do goes well, and I feel clumsy. I hate having this kind of mindset at work."
I said, "Maybe your good fortune is waiting for you at the place where you make a change."
With your emotions still high, you said, "Maybe that's true. You don't know until you encounter it."
I said, "Only by moving forward will we know what awaits us ahead."
You replied, "That's right; there can be no growth by standing still." Then you added, "Actually, I've already decided what I want to do. I'll start tomorrow."
The Tarot card blessing and message from the universe for Ah Hsiung: Priestess.
Ah Hsiung, your lingering emotional turmoil can affect your thoughts and judgment. It's understandable how difficult it is to remain calm amidst turmoil and unhappiness.
However, we all know that without calmness, it's impossible to objectively assess the situation. Things or colleagues may not be as bad as you currently perceive. Losing calmness can also lead to an imbalanced evaluation of yourself.
Sometimes, decisions and actions that seem proactive are actually another form of passive avoidance and protest. Try to calm down before deciding on any changes. Sometimes, change doesn't necessarily mean a different environment but rather a shift in our mindset and attitude.
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