每個人也或許每個國家或地方都一定因”它”的黑歷史而感到偉大。因為你正在創造歷史。我願為你而禱告，然而上帝說”Child ! Spiring is coming!” 。蘇格拉底笑了笑，語重心長地說：「孩子們，這就是人生，人生就是一次無法重複的選擇。」 面對無法回頭的人生，我們只能做三件事：鄭重的選擇，爭取不留下遺憾；如果遺憾了，就理智的面對它，然後爭取改變；假若也不能改變，就勇敢地接受，不要後悔，繼續朝前走。
我認為每個人或國家都會有經過黑歷史時刻。而那段時間會讓人痛不欲生。因為你不知道為什麼是”你”？為什麼發生在自己身上?其實我要告訴你早到總比遲到好！在這戰役裡，你會知道這輩子你的人生真正的課題？你這輩子要學習”愛人”或”勇敢”或”耐力”或”耐心”等等。就像耶穌扮演好了他的角色”博愛”你呢?。蘇格拉底說” 每個人的身上都有太陽，主要是如何讓它發光” 。你是否找到了自己身上的太陽或月亮或星星? 不要羨慕別人沒有黑歷史，只是你沒看到而已！
大家都知道美國的那幾段黑歷史。美國脫離英國的美國獨立革命戰爭。戰勝後、最後法國這個愛搞革命國家送了美國”紐約的自由女神”。及南北戰爭「美國二次革命」一個美國跨入現代工業社會的革命性分水嶺。其中，我最喜歡林肯總統說的”法律之前、人人平等”但現在美國社會真是這樣嗎? 這些經歷的黑歷史卻壯大了美國這世界強國。世界第一的地位。台灣曾有個作家”薇薇”經歷了一段恐龍妹的歷史，找不到真愛，被男朋友拋棄。她發誓一定要減肥，歷經非常痛苦從85kg終於減下來到40幾公斤並且出減肥書而聲名大噪。為此還成為知名人工美女作家。男朋友後悔回來找她。當她想起那段黑歷史。以前男朋友嘲笑拋棄。於是狠狠拒絕。而後找到真愛結婚並生了二位小孩子了。美夢成真。
而你我或許正在經歷失戀就像是被人狠狠刺傷在心臟那刀，學習如何療傷吧! 失戀會讓你知道如何找到下一個更好的男人。而或許你正在經歷身體病痛，它讓你知道”財富永遠比不上健康的重要”。或許你現在處於失業或事業不如意，它讓你知道”如何讓自己面對事業競爭力?” 也許你現在在煩惱找不到那個可以彼此互相走一輩子的伴侶? 是的 時間會讓你更看清楚成熟的愛情與婚姻。
為自己的黑歷史找到真正的自己吧! 那才是最重要的。經歷比結局更重要！
April Yang
Translation by Andy Hogan
What is your dark history? Every country, place, and person has a dark side in their history that has made them great. Because you are living your dark history, I prayed for you, and God answered, “My child, spring is coming.” Socrates said in seriousness, “Children, this is life. Life is what you choose, and there is no repeat.”
In facing a one-chance life, we have three options. Make solemn choices, choose to live without regret, and if regret happens, we need to face it, and fight for change. If it won’t change, we accept it bravely, and keep moving forward.
I believe every nation and person will experience their own time of “dark history.” They are the times of pain and anxiety. They make you wonder, “Why me? Why did this happen to me?” But remember, it’s best that it happened earlier than later. In dark history, you gain understanding though the experiences—your life lessons. Maybe, you need to learn love, courage, endurance, patience, and so on.
Just like Jesus played His role of charity, what is your role? Socrates said, “Everyone has sunshine inside them, the trick is learning how to make it glow.” Have you found your sunshine, moonlight, or shimmering star? Don’t judge that others don’t experience dark histories. Everyone has them, you just don’t see them.
Everyone knows about the United States’ dark history; how they fought a war of independence with England. After winning the war, France, the nation that loves revolution, sent the Statue of Liberty to the United States as a gift. The American civil war, a revolutionary watershed, moved the US into the modern industrial era. I like what president Lincoln said, “Everyone is equal before the law.” But is this true in America today? The dark history experience of America made it strong, and placed it as the leading country of the world.
In Taiwan there was a writer named Wei Wei whose dark history included the experience of being a “dinosaur girl” (overweight). She was abandoned by her boyfriend and couldn’t find true love. She committed herself to a strict diet, and through much struggle, lost weight from 85kg to around 40kg. She published a book about how she succeeded with her diet and became famous as a result. She was known for her ability to make beauty happen through hard work. Feeling regret, her boyfriend came back and wanted to make up and be together again. Remembering how the boyfriend had made fun of her, and had abandoned her, Wei Wei refused to be his girlfriend. Later, she found true love with another man and became a mother to two children. Her dream had come true.
Perhaps you and I are experiencing the pain of broken love that feels like the stab of a knife to our hearts. Perhaps there is something for us to learn. We can learn how to heal from emotional pain and physical illness, how to appreciate that health is the greatest wealth on earth, how to face and overcome the pain of losing a job, how to win in competitive markets, and most of all, how to find and be a better lover and partner to someone all throughout life.
So, let’s find the light in the midst of our dark histories. This is the most important thing. In the end, it’s what you learn from your experience that counts.
