11 Mirrors－Justin Timberlake

Producer－Garland “Sebastian” Mosley, Chris Godbey, J-Roc, Justin Timberlake, Timbaland & James Fauntleroy
Inspired by his relationship to Jessica Biel and his grandparents.
Released－February 11, 2013－Album－The 20/20 Experience

Aren't you something to admire
Cause your shine is something like a mirror
And I can't help but notice
You reflect in this heart of mine
If you ever feel alone and
The glare makes me hard to find
Just know that I'm always
Parallel on the other side

[pre-chorus]
Cause with your hand in my hand
And a pocket full of soul
I can tell you there's no place we couldn't go
Just put your hand on the past
I'm here trying to pull you through
You just gotta be strong

[chorus]
Cause I don't wanna lose you now
I'm looking right at the other half of me
The vacancy that sat in my heart
Is a space that now you hold
Show me how to fight for now
And I'll tell you, baby, it was easy
Coming back into you once I figured it out
You were right here all along
It's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me
I couldn't get any bigger
With anyone else beside me
And now it's clear as this promise
That we're making
Two reflections into one
Cause it's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me

Aren't you something, an original
Cause it doesn't seem merely assembled
And I can't help but stare, cause
I see truth somewhere in your eyes
I can't ever change without you
You reflect me, I love that about you
And if I could, I
Would look at us all the time

[pre-chorus] [chorus]

Yesterday is history
Tomorrow's a mystery
I can see you looking back at me
Keep your eyes on me
Baby, keep your eyes on me

[chorus]

Oh-oh-oh…
You are, you are the love of my life 18x

Baby,
You're the inspiration of this precious song
And I just wanna see your face light up
Since you put me on
So now I say goodbye to the old me,
It's already gone
And I can't wait, wait, wait, wait,
Wait to get you home
Just to let you know, you are

Girl you're my reflection, all I see is you
My reflection, in everything I do 2x

Oh-oh-oh
You are, you are the love of my life…

失去一個重要的東西或是接受一個重要人物的離散，常常是讓一個人墮落的開始；當然，也有可能是蛻變的契機。

「昨天成為了歷史，明天則是未知的（機會）」過去發生的事情雖然無法改變，但是未來的每分每秒，都是讓我們繼續探索美好的機會。

之前想要認真的寫有關人際關係相關的想法，自覺知識量不夠完整，後面我會繼續補充這方面的相關知識，並在不同文章裡慢慢闡述我的觀點。

那這裡接續之前在《Safe and sound》提過的「人際圈」繼續說明這個概念。
人際圈是一個由「原點」和向外拓展的五到七個「同心圓」所組成。
在設立完圓心（代表自我）的自我界線後，我們就可以開始向外分析並建立同心圓。

最接近自己的這一圈，我稱呼它為「人際第一圈」。
在第一圈，我們可以放置，你最重視的或是最能讓你放心的在他面前展現自己的一個人。
這個人可能是你的伴侶，當然如果你年紀還小或是目前沒有穩定伴侶的人，像是我（當然是因為年紀小，呵呵…），就可以把其中一位你的監護人放在這個位置。
當然，是沒有硬性規定只能放一個人，像我目前就把我的爸媽都放在第一圈。
另外，如果你有了伴侶或是小孩，第一圈放的是誰，就會需要好好的思考了。

被放置在第一圈的，通常是你會優先考慮狀態的那位，你最重視的人。
對我而言差不多就是一個可以寄託我存在的一個角色。

但是，在處理第一圈的時候，有幾個很重要注意事項（適用於全部的人際圈）。

第一，清楚的自我界線。
第一圈在自我界線以外，所以你可以付出，但你無法控制對方對你的回應，請慎重地給予任何物質上和精神上的質量，確保自己不帶有交易的心態。

第二，尊重彼此的選擇。
雖然自己把他人擺放在第一圈，但不代表對方也是如此的重視你，因此，要好好辨認對方把你放置的位置，尊重、友善的表現你的風度。

第三，人際關係是經營出來的。
溝通也許不能解決全部的事情，但不溝通，事情就只會變得更差。

最後，不要勉強做會讓自己不舒服的事情。
不開心的事情無法做長久，就算真的有足夠的毅力，時間久了，身心都會有莫大的壓力。