Tara在gatesnotes的訪談(比爾蓋茲訪談)裡提到她一路從美國楊百翰大學到英國劍橋取得博士學位,所謂教育是個探索的過程( Education is a process of discovery.)。是非的辨別,思想的辯證,自我求證以往的盲區,她也藉由教育來釐清家裡的矛盾,衝突,疑惑,最終,Tara掙脫了情緒勒索,道德綑綁,得出You can love someone and still choose to say goodbye to them. You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they are no longer in your life (Tara在接受歐普拉訪談時如此闡述).