這件事情已經很久了
但它仍然沒有褪色
Stupid?
I walked into the classroom one day and greeted my students as usual."How are you doing?"
One of the boys, a first-year middle schooler, immediately started rambling about something that had happened at school that day.
"My teacher at school is so dumb!" he said, laughing like he’d just told the best joke ever.
Hearing that, I had to fight the urge to slam the desk and call him out right there. Instead, I took a deep breath and decided to hear him out.
"Oh? And why's that?" I asked, keeping my voice as calm as possible.
"Well, I brought my Bluetooth earbuds to school today to listen to music. Since my hair’s too short to hide them like the girls do, I used the hood on my jacket to cover them during class," he said, grinning with excitement.
“And then?” I asked, frowning as I fought the urge to blow up at him.
“Then my homeroom teacher came over and asked why I was wearing a hood in class. I told her I was cold, and she believed me and just walked away,” he said, smirking smugly.
“And why do you think your teacher was foolish?” I asked, fixing him with a cold stare.
“Because she actually believed I was cold!” he said, still oblivious to how ridiculous he sounded.
Hearing that, I wanted to lose it even more.
“So, your teacher trusted you, and you call her stupid? Last time, when you didn’t turn in your homework and said you forgot it at home, does that mean I’m an idiot for believing you too?” I asked, my voice sharp with irritation.
“...” He trailed off, finally realizing he might have said something wrong.
“Uh… , are you mad?” he asked, his tone suddenly timid.
That was it. I couldn’t hold back anymore. I let him have it.
“I’ve told you before—what I care about most is your character, followed by your habits. Now think carefully about the attitude behind what you just said.
Do you think you’re better than everyone else?
Do you feel proud of yourself for lying to people? How arrogant, clueless, and completely lacking in judgment do you have to be to say something like that?
Are you sure your teacher actually believed you?
Because I don’t think she did. Maybe she just didn’t want to deal with you or get into an argument.
Do you remember what you told me last time? You said you broke a classmate’s leg with a baseball bat! Do you really think your teachers want to confront you?
I was so frustrated I thought I might pass out.
我那時候的表情，大概跟這張照片很像
I usually don't slam desks to scold students, but this time I couldn’t help myself. I gave it to him straight.
Postscript
Once I calmed down, I asked him,“What kind of person do you want to be? And what kind of people do you want to be friends with?”
“I’m not really sure what kind of person I want to be, but I know I want you to approve of me. And I want to be friends with people who have good character,” he replied.
“What kind of person do you think I would approve of?” I asked, keeping my tone steady.
“Someone with good character, someone virtuous,” he said.
“Do you think you’re that kind of person?” I asked, looking him straight in the eye.
“Do you want me to be that kind of person?” He looked up at me, his expression softening.
“I think you will be,” I said calmly, giving him a reassuring look.
Thankfully, I’ve been teaching him since elementary school, so I’ve been an important figure in his life.
At least he still listens to me!
Phew!
Being a teacher isn’t as easy as it seems.
很久以前
有一天，我走進教室，像往常一樣跟學生打招呼
"How are you doing?"
有一位國一男生劈哩啪啦跟我講他今天在學校發生的事情
「我學校老師好蠢喔！」他嘻嘻哈哈地說道
我剛聽到這句話的時候，想要拍桌子罵他。但我決定深呼吸，聽他說下去
「怎麼說？」我試著冷靜下來
「我今天帶藍芽耳機去學校聽音樂，因為我短頭髮沒辦法像女生一樣用頭髮蓋著。所以我上課的時候就帶外套的帽子把耳機蓋住。」他興奮地說道
「然後呢？」我皺了皺眉頭，壓下想罵他的衝動
「然後我們班老師走過來，問我為什麼戴帽子上課。我回答因為會冷，老師相信了就走掉了」他得意洋洋地說道
「請問老師那裡愚蠢？」我冷冷地盯著他說道
「就老師居然會相信我會冷這件事情啊！」學生繼續很開心地說話
聽完他的回答，我更想罵他了
我壓住我的情緒，盡量保持冷靜
.......
........
「因為老師相信你，所以你說他蠢。那你上次作業沒交，你說你忘了帶，相信你的我是不是也很愚蠢。」我竭盡把情緒壓下來
但是
好像
壓不下來
我的聲音還是提高了
「......」他好像發現事情不對勁了
「老師，你生氣了喔？」他弱弱地說道
不行，我真的整個人炸裂了！壓不住飆了他一頓
「我跟你說過什麼，我第一個抓的是你們的態度、第二個重視的是你們的習慣」
「你仔細想想你剛剛講話的心態」
「你覺得你現在高人一等是嗎？」
「你覺得你可以騙人好棒棒了是嗎？」
「你怎麼會說出這種話？」
我真的快暈倒
我已經很久不拍桌子罵人了，但我還是忍不住把他飆了一頓！
後記
我冷靜下來以後，問他
「你想要成為怎麼樣的人？」
「我不知道我想要成為怎樣的人，但我知道我想要你肯定我。」他說道
「你覺得我會肯定怎樣的人？」我用平淡的語氣問他
「你會肯定的人應該是品德良好，有美德的人吧！」他說道
「你會是嗎？」我直直地望向他的眼中
「老師，你希望我是嗎？」他也直直地盯著我說道
「我想，你會是的。」我平靜地看著他
