讀書__見證幽谷之路 by Alan D. Wolfelt

(原張貼於2017.09.04)見證幽谷之路 by Alan D. Wolfelt  

(Companioning the Bereaved : A Soulful Guide for Caregivers)

悲傷照顧在心靈層面的理念：陪伴喪慟者的藝術
　　序　言　撰寫此書的用意
　　原則一　陪伴是出席他人的痛苦情境，而非幫他們解除痛苦
　　原則二　陪伴是與另一個人一起進入心靈的荒漠，而非肩負尋找出路的責任
　　原則三　陪伴是對心靈保持敬意，而非專注在智能
　　原則四　陪伴是用心傾聽，而非用腦分析
　　原則五　陪伴是見證他人的苦難歷程，而非評論或指引這些苦難
　　原則六　陪伴是幽谷伴行，而非帶路或追隨
　　原則七　陪伴是發現沉默的奧妙，而非用言語填滿每一個痛苦的片刻
　　原則八　陪伴是保持靜止，而非急著向前行
　　原則九　陪伴是敬重失序與混亂，而非強加秩序與邏輯
　　原則十　陪伴是向他人學習，而非教導他們
　　原則十一　陪伴是表達想了解的心意，而非表現專業

Dr. Wolfelt's 11 Tenets of Caring for the Bereaved

1. Companioning is about being present to another person's pain; it is not about taking away the pain.

2. Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.

3. Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.

4. Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.

5. Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.

6. Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.

7. Companioning means discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it does not mean filling up every moment with words.

8. Companioning the bereaved is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.

9. Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.

10. Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.

11. Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise.