失去自我 ?

這是現代女性最害怕的四個字吧。

朋友暢談自己未婚前還是某小姐，結了婚變成「陳太太」，生了小孩成了「陳媽媽」，感慨婚姻裡的付出讓自己的名字不見了，大聲嚷嚷著失去自我。聽她一路自艾自憐，忍不住想中斷對話，因為實在不喜歡聽到受害者語言。

失去自我說穿了是一段茫然無助的過程，像是時間被剝奪、原則被妥協、夢想被耽擱，是一種生活被他人佔領的心情。這種心情任誰都有，埋頭苦讀的學子、焦頭爛額的上班族、熱戀中的情侶、胼手胝足的婚姻...人生路上有太多這樣的時刻了。無助之時需要的是解決方法，找出最適合自己的配速，而不是找一個名詞放在自己身上。

女性能成為各式各樣的身分，是因為女性似水，我們遇到什麼容器我們就成為那個容器的樣子，我們不受限制，有無限可能，可以是輕盈細緻的氣體，可以是涓涓長流的液體、也可以是無堅不摧的固體。如此偉大的特質，怎麼會用失去自我這麼簡單的四個字來放在自己身上呢?

I am woman歌詞

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
You can bend but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

作詞/作曲：Ray Burton / Helen Reddy