如果你經常生氣,你想要找到真正的原因,進而改變自己嗎?
大仲馬曾說過:「你要控制自己的情緒,否則你的情緒便控制了你。」
有一個人經常發脾氣,稍微遭遇不如意就生氣。
當他每次發怒都會認為是別人引起的。他為了想要改變易怒的情緒,於是決定到深山裡隱居,一個人在山中修身養性。
有一天,他拿著一個陶罐去河邊裝水,一不小心把裝滿水的罐子弄倒,水也打翻了。他只好再去河邊重新盛水,但是這一次走到一半水又打翻了,一氣之下,他把整個罐子摔碎。
當他看著已經摔碎沒辦法使用的陶罐,才驚覺到:「以前我生氣都以為是別人造成的,現在只有我一個人,我居然也能發這麼大的脾氣,可見易怒的情緒是從我自己心中生出來的。」
19世紀法國浪漫主義大文豪亞歷山大·仲馬(法語:Alexandre Dumas)的經典語錄:「憂鬱是因為自己無能,煩惱是由於欲望得不到滿足,暴躁是一種虛怯的表現。」
” Melancholy is because of oneself incompetence, worry is because desire is not satisfied, irritable is a kind of empty expression.”。
當我們想要重新找回平和的心,需要仔細檢討原因,反觀自己的內心,唯有當我們發現自己是問題的根源,才不會把錯誤歸咎於他人。
Why do people get angry easily?
If you get angry a lot, do you want to find the real reason and change yourself?
Dumas once said, "You have to control your emotions, otherwise your emotions will control you."
There is a person who often loses his temper and gets angry when he encounters a slight encounter.
Whenever he gets angry, he thinks it is caused by someone else. To change his irritable mood, he decided to live in seclusion in the mountains and cultivate himself alone in the mountains.
One day, he went to the river with a clay pot to fill the water and accidentally spilled the jar filled with water, and the water was spilled. He had to go to the river again to fill the water, but this time halfway through the water overturned, and in one breath, he smashed the whole jar.
When he looked at the clay pot that had been smashed and could not be used, he realized: "Before, I thought that I was angry because of others, but now I am alone, I can have such a big temper, so it can be seen that irritable emotions are born from my own heart." 」
A classic quote by the 19th-century French romantic writer Alexandre Dumas:
“Melancholy is due to one's incompetence, annoyance is due to unfulfilled desires, and irritability is a manifestation of timidity. ”
When we want to regain our peace of mind, we need to carefully examine the reasons and look at our hearts, and only when we find ourselves to be the root of the problem will we not blame others for our mistakes.