You can't afford to look or feel deficient in these basic characteristics. Your focus is showing off to everyone around you (and yourself), displaying how good you are and how much in-built specialness you were born with. You believe that your qualities are cultivated through your efforts. With the right strategy and discipline, you can improve. Through application and experience, we can get better. The hunger for levelling up (and sticking to it even when it's not going well) is the hallmark of the Growth Mindset. This mindset allows people to thrive daring some of the most challenging times in their lives. --- Invest your image and how you style yourself, it can really mold your whole life. My wardrobe as being the vehicle to achieving what I want to achieve in my life. The way you are presenting yourself to the world will help facilitate all those other thing that going on.