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Unsplash前幾天是世界不打小孩日,可愛的衛服部總柴悉心叮嚀各位把麻不要打小孩,但小孩就是講也講不聽啊,用「打」是最快能看到顯著效果的方式,小孩立刻就不會再做同樣的事情了,還有什麼比「打」更有效的方式嗎?腦寶到1y4m了,這幾次腦媽偶爾會收到托嬰中心的老師說「腦寶最近會開始出現打人的狀況囉」、「腦寶會拿玩具用同學,老師會說手是用來玩玩具的,不是來打同學的」。☝請問:各位媽咪聽到會怎麼做呢?我知道有些家庭的作法是,如果看到小朋友開始狂打、亂踢就會伸出小朋友的手,然後小打一下,並說「我打你會不會痛?會痛,是不是,那你為什麼要打人家?」😱😱😱請各位爸比媽咪不要再這麼做了!!!這麼做根本不會讓小孩停止打打。【https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E9%80%99%E5%B9%B4%E7%B4%80%E7%9A%84%E5%A4%A7%E8%85%A6%E7%99%BC%E7%94%9F%E4%BB%80%E9%BA%BC%E4%BA%8B%E5%91%A2?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#這年紀的大腦發生什麼事呢?】常聽到人家說「2歲是貓狗都嫌的年紀」,這是因為 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/3%E6%AD%B2%E4%BB%A5%E5%89%8D%E7%9A%84%E5%B0%8F%E5%AD%A9%E6%98%AF%E6%B2%92%E6%9C%89%E8%87%AA%E6%88%91%E6%83%85%E7%B7%92%E6%8E%A7%E5%88%B6%E7%9A%84%E8%83%BD%E5%8A%9B?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#3歲以前的小孩是沒有自我情緒控制的能力(self emotional regulation ),這時候他們的大腦在情緒這個區塊發展的非常活躍,而且正在快速發展自主意識(現在可以自己走、跑、有簡單的肢體控制力了),但無奈的是其他功能又還沒發育完全(如,抑制力、決策力、語言力、理解力等),因此小孩覺得「我想要」就希望是立即拿到,就算父母講多少的大道理,小孩還是不理解,所以就直接哭鬧。而發展「自我情緒自制能力」的關鍵,其實是在於3歲前的「https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%85%B1%E5%90%8C%E6%83%85%E7%B7%92%E6%8E%A7%E5%88%B6%E5%8A%9B?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#共同情緒控制力」(emotional co-regulation),意思就是「https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E8%88%87%E7%88%B6%E6%AF%8D%E7%9A%84%E4%BA%92%E5%8B%95?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#與父母的互動」。共同控制力最註明的舉例就是打網球。譬如,當你看到對手將球打過來,你的反應,有可能是模仿同個球技、但也有可能依照你以前的經驗與現在的能力做出的回擊,而這一來一往的擊球都建立在對手上一發的表現。https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E8%A6%AA%E5%AD%90%E4%BA%92%E5%8B%95?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#親子互動 就是如此。孩子碰到一件事情的處理方式,可能是 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E6%A8%A1%E4%BB%BF?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#模仿,也可能是依照先前的 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E7%B6%93%E9%A9%97?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#經驗 與本次的感覺讓他做出 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E7%AC%A6%E5%90%88%E4%BB%96%E7%8F%BE%E5%9C%A8%E8%83%BD%E5%8A%9B%E7%AF%84%E5%9C%8D?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#符合他現在能力範圍 的動作,也可能是依據你剛剛的表現。.所以啦!如果把麻遇到小朋友做錯事情就打他,但他這個階段的大腦無法處理太複雜的理解能力、只能用情緒反應的話,他以後可能也只會用「https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E6%89%93?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#打」來解決事情。更重要的事,長期追蹤實驗發現,這樣的小孩將來的自我情緒控制就會很差,而且會影響未來的 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%95%8F%E9%A1%8C%E8%A7%A3%E6%B1%BA%E8%83%BD%E5%8A%9B?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#問題解決能力、https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%AD%B8%E6%A5%AD%E8%BC%83%E5%B7%AE?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#學業較差、https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%90%88%E4%BD%9C%E4%BA%92%E5%8B%95%E8%83%BD%E5%8A%9B%E4%B9%9F%E8%BC%83%E5%B7%AE?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#合作互動能力也較差。☝回到問題,該如何回應老師呢?可以回說:「腦寶正在經歷hitting stage,所以會打打是很正常的喔~」(誤)沒有啦,開玩笑的!!這樣應該會被老師白眼吧😆😆我只是想和各位媽咪說,如果收到這樣的評語真的不要緊張,因為這就是 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%B9%BC%E5%85%92%E7%99%BC%E5%B1%95%E7%9A%84%E9%9A%8E%E6%AE%B5?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#幼兒發展的階段,雖然會辛苦爸媽、老師,但如果我們身為父母與老師能給予正確的回應方式,也能幫助到孩子未來的 https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E6%83%85%E7%B7%92%E6%8E%A7%E7%AE%A1%E8%83%BD%E5%8A%9B?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#情緒控管能力。【https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E8%85%A6%E5%AA%BD%E5%88%86%E4%BA%AB?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#腦媽分享】遇到這樣的情況該怎麼辦呢?腦媽分享幾種方式,看看你們家寶貝吃不吃這套囉~1. 轉移注意力2. 帶他去打可以打的東西,如鼓、枕頭3. 轉成拍拍手4. 溫柔的帶離這個地方,然後跟他簡單說明,再抱抱他5. 情境允許的話,可以用搞笑的方式讓孩子大笑我相信,只要父母願意花時間多想,一定能想到比https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E6%89%93%E7%BD%B5%E5%B0%8F%E5%AD%A9?source=feed_text&epa=HASHTAG&__xts__%5B0%5D=68.ARCVWDyhR893A_5bdhxL-9na2wv_bttJK30nOIFx8JpOyokVUr3s2PjUCpTiCxN6apvs-ZR9veDLTtDs41PdwqXaOLq-IfbO8cUHb9AT4DSkcEHSuWeMnyNeAPd3qlICWi7lLhJg1-B8JpsYbenP9zTh4D3YgM5wiyIcCG8I18PmS1C9uAH-ewi80LE2O6A9i6sC2EpKEBYCaZGQt1ZRqDwnIIjnZorHP-7kD_Qb2KXyvvzqNlg6devTdR-Lg4nBk5qFDAC8l9Wl4xIINf5ov0-65IQxD1n1HkbInKKMCtTxNtJog0Q2c0Oxn9KDpY8Gg11OkHTzbMcar9Dpa_0UpcYl8A&__tn__=%2ANK-R" target="_blank" class="draft--a">#打罵小孩厲害的方式喔!你們家怎麼面對這種問題呢?歡迎和腦媽分享喔 :)▌關於大腦媽媽 ▌FB:https://www.facebook.com/brainymamaedu" target="_blank" class="draft--a">https://www.facebook.com/brainymamaedu(兒童認知心理學科學家 + 媽媽)的綜合體畢業於認知神經科學所,曾於澳洲Marcs Institute for Brain and Development的寶寶研究室(Baby Lab)擔任交換研究人員,研究寶寶大腦的聽覺與語言發展。曾於視覺藝術研究所進修,並修習藝術治療、創作、幼兒玩具設計與研究。即將前往紐西蘭奧克蘭大學早期學習實驗室(Early Learning Lab, Auckland)修習博士學位。