<div class=draft-block draft--p left>我牽著妞、我表姐牽著燁</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>當我跟妞跑在很前面,燁怎麼追也追不上</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>燁開始生氣</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>而翎,很開心。</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>後來燁追上了,在我們前面</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>燁還是在生氣,</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>因為他還想繼續跑、一直跑、不停的跑</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>而我跟妞</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>很自在的在後面講543</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>說說笑笑</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>完全不在意我們是跑在前面還是落在後面</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>燁輸了不開心、贏了,也還是不開心!</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>翎贏了開心、輸了,依然非常開心!</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>這是為什麼我不喜歡競爭、不喜歡排名的原因。</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>心裡有競爭心的人</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>輸了會氣餒,一心想著如何才能贏?</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>贏了會膽顫,因為不知何時又會被追上?</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>內在很難感到自由,因為被外界牽制了</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>阿蕯母教養也好幾年了</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>燁依然非常在乎想贏</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>我也懷疑過,是否我在日常中</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>沒有覺知地傳遞了「要第一」的訊息給燁?</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>導致他這麼在意輸贏?</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>直到我學了阿德勒的家庭星座</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>我理解了那是燁身為老大</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>得到歸屬感的方式</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>直到我看到燁在人類圖裡有一條「第一等人」通道</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>我懂了那是他天生的設計</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>我不再想著歸疚燁喜歡贏的特質來自哪裡?</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>一直想「調整」他(好,是控制xd)</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>而是開始真心地接納了,燁原本的樣子</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>接納以後,真的很好</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>我發現自己居然開始能夠欣賞這個</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left>不論輸還是贏,都氣噗噗的燁</div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left><a href=https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%9C%96%E7%82%BA%E6%AD%A3%E5%9C%A8%E7%94%9F%E6%B0%A3%E7%9A%84%E7%87%81?__eep__=6&__cft__[0]=AZVZASQr03mRHR7bPydbcGFkFP_taeMVqxAkJP0q-quy4bG1vOEYIhc240hHHU7x7-9wiBXkNQbEwXU5bO-XtV6igu8eNNQFUk4C5gidfgRKBWDHVRRVFe2PEoa0yRoXEgqJTunNa-VucmPXYf60L3UqSapnQru04JTsBErPfyHJv4aK1kvBXuPb3pi5L7FIOffDd3JyCKbRY-b_IoeWKsWg&__tn__=*NK-R target=_blank class=draft--a>#圖為正在生氣的燁</a></div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left><a href=https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E9%98%BF%E8%96%A9%E6%AF%8D%E9%AB%98%E5%B0%8F%E9%9C%B2?__eep__=6&__cft__[0]=AZVZASQr03mRHR7bPydbcGFkFP_taeMVqxAkJP0q-quy4bG1vOEYIhc240hHHU7x7-9wiBXkNQbEwXU5bO-XtV6igu8eNNQFUk4C5gidfgRKBWDHVRRVFe2PEoa0yRoXEgqJTunNa-VucmPXYf60L3UqSapnQru04JTsBErPfyHJv4aK1kvBXuPb3pi5L7FIOffDd3JyCKbRY-b_IoeWKsWg&__tn__=*NK-R target=_blank class=draft--a>#阿薩母高小露</a></div> <div class=draft-block draft--p left><a href=https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/%E5%9B%A0%E8%82%B2%E5%85%92%E8%80%8C%E5%AD%B8%E6%9C%83%E7%9A%84%E4%BA%8B?__eep__=6&__cft__[0]=AZVZASQr03mRHR7bPydbcGFkFP_taeMVqxAkJP0q-quy4bG1vOEYIhc240hHHU7x7-9wiBXkNQbEwXU5bO-XtV6igu8eNNQFUk4C5gidfgRKBWDHVRRVFe2PEoa0yRoXEgqJTunNa-VucmPXYf60L3UqSapnQru04JTsBErPfyHJv4aK1kvBXuPb3pi5L7FIOffDd3JyCKbRY-b_IoeWKsWg&__tn__=*NK-R target=_blank class=draft--a>#因育兒而學會的事</a></div>