抱怨(上)
Parenting Insights
I used to be quite the complainer, maybe it's in the genes—thanks, my mom. She's a pro at airing her grievances. But you know what, thanks to her complaints, I've got this unique way of checking in on how things are going with her lately. It's just our little way of keeping the lines of communication open at home.
Friends
Once, my buddy and I got into a conversation about the whole complaining thing.
"Do you reckon complaining is more of a pro or a con?" Xiao Liu looked at me and threw the question.
"Totally a pro," I shot back.
"Why's that?" Xiao Liu seemed a bit puzzled.
"Well, if you're gonna complain, there's gotta be something worth griping about, right? That means you've got a keen eye. You've noticed an issue, and that's why you're complaining. Otherwise, if you don't have a clue about anything, how can you complain?" I explained.
Maybe growing up surrounded by a bunch of folks who love a good gripe has turned me into a pro at spotting the perks of complainers. My observation skills? Top-notch.
Xiao Liu wasn't fully vibing with my perspective. "But seriously, listening to complaints is super annoying," he pointed out.
"Absolutely," I agreed.
"So, why the claim that it's an advantage?" Xiao Liu asked, a bit surprised.
"Because I'm a card-carrying member of the human complaint club. Naturally, I'm gonna see it as an advantage," I grinned at him.
"Eh..." Xiao Liu gave me that look of 'you really got me there,' leaving me feeling pretty pleased. Hahaha.
Change
Being a complainer, I met someone who made me break the habit.
My sweetheart!
Because my sweetheart is dead serious. When I complained about my boss A
"Listen up, let's break down how your boss."
"What's the speaking style of your supervisor?" Let's continue the analysis
"I'll show you the ropes on talking to your boss."
"I'm telling you, this is what you gotta do."
"I've got plans A, B, and C all mapped out for you. Stick to them, and you'll be golden—smooth sailing ahead."
"Ah, it's really annoying," I thought. I'm glad my darling cares so much about me, putting in the time to plan.
But that's not what I'm after.
家庭教育
我原本是一位很愛抱怨的人類，可能是因為家庭因素
我媽是一位很愛抱怨的人
我也是透過我媽的抱怨，來了解他最近過得怎麼樣
這是我們家的溝通方式
抱怨是優點還是缺點?
有一次我和朋友小劉聊到抱怨這個議題
「你覺得抱怨是優點還是缺點？」小劉看著我說道
「當然是優點」我說
「為什麼？」小劉有點疑惑的問我
「你要抱怨，要先有抱怨的點吧！這表示你觀察力挺好的。你有察覺到問題，才可以抱怨。否則你什麼都不瞭解，你要怎麼抱怨？」我說
可能是我生長在一堆愛抱怨人中間，所以很能找愛抱怨人的優點吧
觀察力很傑出
小劉不太認同我的觀點
「可是聽抱怨很煩ㄟ。」他說
「是很煩沒錯。」我說
「那你還說是優點。」小劉有點驚訝地說
「因為我就是愛抱怨的人類，當然會說是優點」我一臉微笑著看他
「ㄜ......」小劉一臉算你狠的無言表情，讓我看得好開心
哈哈哈 ✧*｡٩(ˊᗜˋ*)و✧*｡
改變
愛抱怨的我，遇到了一個人。
他讓我改掉了愛抱怨的習慣
就是
就是就是
我家寶貝啦！
因為我家寶貝真的太認真了
我跟他抱怨我遇到的上司A
他就開始分析上司A的說話方式、個性、行為
開始幫我規劃解決方法
Plan A, Plan B, Plan C
告訴我可以有的應對方式A, B, C
「啊！真的好煩」我想
我很高興他這麼為我著想，花很多時間幫我規劃東、規劃西、規劃南、規劃北
但我要的不是這個
