2018年,大學畢業看著好友往各自的方向前進,不管是出國留學、繼續讀研究所或是步入社會,看著他們往前走的樣子,似乎身上帶著光芒而且是一種我很嚮往很羨慕的光芒,很閃耀、很奪目,引導著他們,那我呢?!
我想這世界上有幾種人,第一種就是家庭環境優渥讓小孩接觸各種事物,很早就知道自己的方向;第二種是父母忙碌,小孩自己找出有興趣的事物(通常這種未來成功的機會都很大);第三種是父母一樣忙碌著賺錢,深怕未來小孩受苦,直逼他們不斷讀書,只希望有個穩定的工作,卻忽略幫助他們探索的興趣,以至於當孩子不願走上父母鋪好的道路時,一股巨大的迷惘感便席捲而來。而我就是那第三種孩子,畢業後選擇考試兩年,不是因為真的喜歡當公務人員,而是因為真的不知道能有什麼發展、沒有方向引導自己。或許你會問你怎麼沒在大學的時候多多是試探自己呢?!對,經歷從小到大不斷地讀書看書,坦白說,當你擁有自主權時,第一個選項應該是徹底去享受吧。不過,並非每個人都像我一樣這麼愚鈍,還是有很早就替自己鋪好路的人,真心覺得他們真的是很厲害且很有遠目的一群人!
Preparing yourself for the time coming.
網路流傳著這首詩:
“Everyone has their own time zone”
New York is three hours ahead of California, but that doesn’t make California slow. Someone graduated at the age of 22, but waited five years before securing a good job. Some became a CEO at 25,and died at 50. While another became a CEO at 50,and lived to 90 years. Someone is still single,While someone else got married. Obama retired at 55,and Trump started at 70. Everyone in this world works based on their time zone. People around you might seem to be ahead of you, and some might seem to be behind you. But everyone is running their own race, in their own time. Do not envy them and do not mock them. They are in their time zone, and you are in yours. Life is about waiting for the right moment to act. So, relax. You’re not late. You’re not early. You are very much on time. 沒錯,可能很多人已經知道這首詩,或許認為這只是老生常談了,不過這首詩真的幫助我很多紓解很多惱人的焦慮,尤其當你真的很迷惘很沒有方向且看著同梯的朋友開始步入軌道時,心理的各種焦慮感似乎要侵蝕自己,情緒形成的雙手正掐著你的咽喉,莫名的窒息感遲遲難以退去… …
“Everything will be fine.”
如有幸來此的朋友,您與我也有相同的感受,不管是在哪個階段,希望你也可以 「閉上你的雙眼,深深的吸一大口氣,漸漸吐出」,把所有的感受就由這口氣全部吐光吧!當你靜下心,清明的狀態時,才會注意到一絲絲的曙光也許就在你眼前。
“Everything will be fine.” “Everything will be fine.” “Everything will be fine.” “We just need to prepare myself and wait the time coming."
p.s.寫給自己的瞬間,希望也能幫助有相同感受的朋友。