This is about you. Not anybody else. When somebody is there and they need to be rejected, you reject them! It is about you. Not about them. Doesn’t matter if they don't like it. Or if it hurts their feelings. Or this or that. What? You know, big deal! It's about you. If you do not protect yourself, no one will. There’s nobody here to look after you.
This is the myth. We are only here to look after ourselves. Otherwise you're lost in the circus. And for a projector this is something, only to stand in their own authority and to be able to say NO, NO! Such a great word, hey? I mean I love “no”. No is really cool. I'm an ego person when I say yes it just means work. That’s immediate translation. Yes – work, yes – work. No was like no - work. I love to say no. This? No! terrific and they leave you alone, which is really nice, right? No! And you think if you tell them “no’ long enough they won't ask you anymore. It’s not true. They keep coming back for more. They keep trying. “Can I” “No!” Becomes a disease. “I want that!” “no”. The power seduction.
You see what a projector doesn't understand is that they are a quantity that the other wants. Literally. Like an item on the shelf in the supermarket. “I like that, I want some of that” and I come to you and you go “No”. In all your life you’ve been saying yes, right? So you end up being that commodity. They treat you exactly the way they found you. The moment you say “no” there is immediately confused. They got a problem. Ah, this wasn't supposed to work this way. You were supposed to just plug in and everything was going to be cool. And why aren't you doing that? They get really upset. They've got a problem. They can’t use you. They want your attention. Until the projector understands that, this is your greatest asset, this is the thing that allows other people to put up with you. Cause they love attention.
All human beings love attention. Don't we? We all do. And you see, you don't get attention from generators. You don't. Because it’s never personal. It's just this nice enveloping aura. You can be there and never talk to them and they're happy you're there and you're happy they’re there and you don't have anything to do with each other and you're just in his arms, all okay! No projector! Human beings have such a bad sense of themselves, that they are afraid to say No, they’re afraid, because they don't think that what's right for them will ever come. So they'll take second best, third best, fourth best, fifth best. Because they're afraid that there won’t be that thing that they can plug into. And all you have to understand is the other wants them, loves their attention, loves their attention, needs their attention. It's not like what you have now, with the not-self projector, is the myth, that the projector sucks energy from others. The leech projector, that illusion. But the fact of the matter is, that the way it actually operates in the not-self, is that the other wants that attention. And puts up with the leeching, because they want the attention.
The attention is more valuable to them than the annoyance of whatever they think they're losing in the interaction. They want the attention. Cause they don't feel worthy. They don't feel that anybody loves them. How nice “oh, oh, he/she he paid attention to me, Oh, do I feel good!” But it sells! Projectors get used so easily, they get hooked and the thing that stands between them and wholeness is the ability to put up their hand and say NO, NO. I'm only going to plug in where I want to plug in. I'm not gonna miss anything. And you see when you do that, you learn something wonderful. You begin to see your power. Because you see, they’re not gonna go away. Once you do that to them, they will never go away, never. I mean even if they’re thousands of miles physically away, they will never go away. They will go to sleep at night thinking, maybe this time I can get their attention. You see when you send them away, you begin to recognize who you are. That you are valuable and that you have to be treated according to your worth. And you’ll see, they’ll come back. And it's fun, you can begin to enjoy say no, not today, no, no, no. I don't use that kind of diesel. Don't need that today. So easy, when it comes from inner courage, that you can be all right with in yourself.