段考 exam

我問了很多朋友，「你為什麼那麼重視段考成績呢？」

段考不是只是一個工具，來幫助你了解自己目前學習的階段還有哪些可以進步的工具嗎？段考考不好，只是代表你那個部分沒學精，不用到那麼沮喪吧。」

大部分的朋友回答大概內容都是：你不懂啦！不是我在乎段考成績，是我怕被粗暴的對待！

「？？？？？」我真的滿頭問號，

「它的關連性在哪裡？考不好跟被粗暴對待應該沒關係吧」

回答通常都是：我考不好會被沒收手機、會被禁網、會被鎖電腦、會被罵、會被吼、會被處罰，我會感覺自己超沒用，我就是學不會！

喔！原來如此

原來朋友們重視的事情，不是段考，是怕失望的眼光、是怕被自己重要的人粗暴對待！

原來我們重視什麼樣的事情，是由我們身邊的人決定的。

I asked a bunch of my friends, "Hey, why do you all make such a big deal out of mid-term exam grades?"

I mean, isn't it just a way to see where we need to improve and stuff? If we don't do so great, it's no biggie, right?"

But most of them were like, "Nah, you don't get it, man! It's not just about the grades; it's about the consequences!" "Say what??" I was totally confused.

"Yeah, yeah! If I screw up, they'll take away my phone, cut off my internet, lock down my computer, and then they start yelling and punishing me!

Ah, got it now! So, it's not really about the exam itself; it's about the fear of letting down important people and getting treated harshly by them! Turns out, what we value is kinda shaped by the folks around us.