「不要難過」、「要加油」、「一定可以的」...
這些都是在安慰界裡的罐頭訊息，有多少次我們在安慰人時，想也不想的就脫口而出這些話。
我不想再這樣。
我不想再為了當個八面玲瓏的人而說出一些權宜之計的安慰。我想要從我口裡說出的安慰，都是真正能讓對方感到真誠並且有血液在流動的安慰。
我要真正的同理過對方的

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健康與情感

<div class="draft-block draft--p left">不要難過...<br>要加油...<br>一定可以的...</div>
<div class="draft-block draft--p left">這些都是安慰人的罐頭訊息，有多少次我在安慰人時，想也不想的就脫口而出。</div>
<div class="draft-block draft--p left">我不要再這樣。</div>
<div class="draft-block draft--p left">在安慰人之前我應該要先想一想，在真正同理過對方的處境之前，先不要急著說出那些不痛不癢的話。我要慢慢的想一想，再想一想。然後緩緩的、暖暖的說出最真誠的安慰。一句廢話都不要有的，一個字一個字的說進對方的心裡。</div>
<div class="draft-block draft--p left">如果真的說不了什麼，也不要為了「總要說點什麼吧」而說，有時候什麼話都不說，就是靜靜的坐在身旁陪伴，也是一種很好的安慰。</div>
<div class="draft-block draft--p left">我的100個基本。</div>
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不要難過...
要加油...
一定可以的...

這些都是安慰人的罐頭訊息，有多少次我在安慰人時，想也不想的就脫口而出。

在安慰人之前我應該要先想一想，在真正同理過對方的處境之前，先不要急著說出那些不痛不癢的話。我要慢慢的想一想，再想一想。然後緩緩的、暖暖的說出最真誠的安慰。一句廢話都不要有的，一個字一個字的說進對方的心裡。

如果真的說不了什麼，也不要為了「總要說點什麼吧」而說，有時候什麼話都不說，就是靜靜的坐在身旁陪伴，也是一種很好的安慰。

grayscale photography of kids walking on road

12：安慰人的時候仔細思考