《MeToo》為自己發聲/ Your voice to protect yourself is beautiful.

#MeToo 

Hey, dears, if you've heard these words below, or words similar to them,

let's have a talk.

It is dangerous for you to be so naive and you will be deceived.

I don't know why, I never did this before, I think that's because you are too charming!

Hey, your lips are very special.

Hey, you have a good figure, I think you will look good in sexy suits.

Your lips are full of energy!

I just want to hug you!

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It is dangerous for you to be so naive and you will be deceived.

Be careful with other people, but I'm different, you have to trust in whatever I do.

I don't know why, I never did this before, I think that's because you are too charming!

All of these are your fault, not mine.

Hey, your lips are very special and look full of energy!

I can attack to have more if I can reach to kiss them.

Hey, you have a good figure, I think you will look good in sexy suits.

Everyone looks good in what they wear, but you are easier to convince.

I just want to hug you!

Why not if I want!

"Do not get into or even stay in a confined space alone with someone of the opposite sex."

You have obviously heard many people's propaganda and warnings,

but you thought it was impossible for someone to be so bad?

However, you thought you would never meet these bad guys and that you are safe in looking, in everything.

You can even think that you have the ability to brake.

You think that the car is unlocked, you can leave at any time, immediately, immediately.

But the fact is that your shock and fear will lock you, making you unable to resist or even scream.

At the moment, you resist by saying "it's too late" or "you have to go home, your family will be worried".

But he doesn't listen, he will just think, "Well, be obedient and we'll solve it quickly", or he won't be able to hear you at all.

You have to sternly refuse with a firm aura and scare him into waking up from his out-of-control desires.

But if you find that the opponent is starting to become aggressive, you need to use a delaying strategy.

Show that you are willing to cooperate, but now you have a stomachache and need to go to the toilet first, etc.

Try best to gain time and space to find reinforcements and put out his fire.

But if it still happened,

"My dear, this is not your fault, never go back because of this."

Do not take "If it's like two people are in love, and it's not being violated."

It really does not mean that making this like you were willing can deny or even reverse the fact of being sexually harassed/assaulted.

There will only be one more hurt and more regret afterwards.

Hey, do you know?

In fact, both sides are wrong.

One only sees his own pain and desires, ignores the pain of others.

He may be in pain and wants to use this method to numb himself and heal his wounds.

But!

He have a choice.

Since a benevolent person knows how painful a broken heart would be, he will not be willing to inflict it on others.

The other party gave the other party the opportunity to make mistakes, and more importantly, gave up the responsibility to protect yourself.

Maybe you find the other person's pain and hope to help him or her with love.

As you saw the distress signal, it doesn't mean you need to tear down your own boundaries to save him.

When you are drowning together, it will be difficult for you to even save yourself.

If you learn to think of yourself and others with compassion, you will have the wisdom to be aware of dangers early.

Don't just listen to the words, watch the actions!

Trust your instincts. If you sense disrespect from the other person, you have the right to speak up for yourself and avoid putting yourself in danger.

Bless every unique you. You are so precious.

You have the responsibility to protect yourself and speak out for yourself.

You are beautiful in speak out for yourself!

#慈悲 #自我覺察 #發聲 #關係

如果你聽過這些話，或類似的話，我們聊聊。

你這麼天真很危險，會被騙。

我不知道為什麼，我不會這樣的，因為你太有魅力！

偷偷跟你說，你的嘴唇很特別。

偷偷跟你說，你身材很好，穿小可愛一定很好看。

你的嘴唇有滿滿的能量！

只是想要抱抱你而已啊！

你這麼天真很危險（小心其他人，但我不一樣，你要卸下心防)

我不知道為什麼，我不會這樣的，因為你太有魅力（都是你的錯不是我）

你身材很好、你穿~~一定很好看 (誰穿都好看，但你比較好說服)

你的嘴唇很特別、看起來有滿滿的能量 (可以親到就可以進攻)

我只是想要抱抱你而已啊 (只要我想要為什麼不可以)

「不要單獨和異性到密閉空間」

你明明聽過很多人宣導、警告，

不過，你以為不可能有人這麼壞，

不過，你以為自己不會遇見、自己是很安全的，

甚至你以為自己有能力可以煞車的，你以為車沒鎖你可以隨時、馬上、立即離開，

但事實是你的震驚與恐懼也會鎖住你，讓你無法反抗，甚至叫不出聲。

當下你用「太晚了」、「要回家、家人會擔心」來抵抗，

但他聽不進去的，他只會覺得 "那你快聽話呀，我們快速解決"，或完全聽不見你的話。

你要用堅定的氣場嚴正拒絕，讓他嚇到從失控的慾望中醒來，

但如果發現對方開始有攻擊性，你需要用緩兵計，

展現你是願意配合只是現在肚子痛需要先上廁所之類，

爭取時間空間找救兵，也滅下他的火。

但如果真的發生了，

「親愛的，這不是你的錯，不要因為這樣回去。」

不是這樣就好像是兩情相悅，就不是被侵害。

真的不是把這件事變成自願，就可以否定、甚至扭轉被侵害的事實。

只會多一次的傷害，事後多一層的懊悔。

你知道嗎？

其實雙方都有錯，

一方只看到自己的痛苦與慾望，無視他人的痛苦，

他或許是身陷痛苦，想用這樣的方式來麻痺自己、療傷，

但是，

他是可以有理智有選擇的，仁者既已知心傷有多痛，便不會捨得加諸他人。

而另一方，給了對方犯錯的機會，更重要的，是捨棄了保護自己的責任。

或許你是看到對方的苦痛，希望用愛來幫助對方，

你看到了求救訊號，並不代表需要拆掉自己的界限才能救他，

當你一同溺入心傷的汪洋，你連自救都很苦。

學習用慈悲去為自己與他人著想，就能有智慧讓自己及早覺察危險，

不要只聽言語，觀察行為！

相信自己的直覺，若發覺對方的不尊重，即有權為自己發聲，避免讓自己身在危險中。

祝福每一位獨特的你，你是如此珍貴，你有責任保護好自己，為自己發聲的你，很美！